Is chivalry sexist? Well, having got a new topic, I made a surprising revelation – some people (women mostly) do think that chivalry sexist… I could never think of that!...
And do you know what struck me most? The fact is – I came across such books as “The Language Police” by Diane Ravitch and “A Feminist Dictionary” (600 pages!!!) by Cheris Kramarae, Paula A.Treichler and Ann Russo. Well, I am not the person to judge, but the authors’ ideas sound somewhat absurd from time to time. In their attempt to make the language as inoffensive as possible, they create such words and definitions that are mocked at worldwide. For example, not to insult a she-citizen of the USA hinting on her sexual belonging, she is to be called “a vaginal American”! Would you like to be the one? If we compose a he-counterpart… What would it be? “A penis American”? I have never thought that it is shameful to be a Woman or a Man! Not a very beautiful woman (or should I say “person”?) is described as “having an alternative body image”; a prostitute is called “a sex-worker”. And, at last, this week’s topic – “courtliness” or “chivalry” is interpreted as “an instrument of suppression, making a woman incapable of solving life problems without a man’s everyday help”. It’s really beyond my comprehension!
In other words, I see the problem differently. And I don’t reject the idea of having equal rights between men and women, but everything should be reasonable! I don’t have an aversion for a business-lady/woman, she gained success and that’s great! I would admire her strong character and purposefulness. But what really makes me furious is much anger, seeing enemies everywhere without focusing on the real world issues that most men and women are facing (I am talking about feminism) or banning such scripts as: “Mother brings some sandwiches to Father who is repairing a roof”, should be: “Mother is repairing a roof”; “Boys are playing and girls are shouting for them”, should be: “mixed teams of players” (from “The Language Police”), etc. Isn’t that insensible?
Men are always men. They will always like real women – sensible, tender, caring, all in lace and curls. They are (well, most of them) defenders by Nature and they need a woman to protect her, to take care of her, to admire and love her, not to struggle with. Isn’t that only natural?
And vice versa, women will always be women.)) They will always like real men – strong, courageous, noble, caring, all in shining armour, ready to rescue damsels in distress. And real women will always be wise enough to let them do that! Have we forgotten a well-known saying: “A man is a head, but a woman is a neck”? A woman inspires a man for noble deeds, directs his energy to the right channel. A man, in his turn, tenders thanks to a woman doing all sorts of things we call “chivalry”.
Just imagine a situation: men pay no attention to women out of fear of being blamed for “conceptual rape” (meaning “an imagined participation of a man in a coitus without a woman’s preliminary agreement”; I wonder, how did she manage to read his thoughts?... An enchantress of a woman, really!), for example. But let’s go on imagining… You are at home, it’s boring, something has gone wrong with a boyfriend, then, suddenly and fortunately enough, a girlfriend of yours is calling: “Let’s get some fresh air somewhere?” After a few minutes of hesitation you decide: “Why not!” and start dressing up. Dressing up! Men usually put something on, ladies dress up! It’s an open secret, that dressing up is a kind of ceremonial for a lady – she is trying to show her best, her individuality in the clothes, it is even possible to talk about her mood judging by the way she looks like. So, you’ve spent about an hour (or more!) preparing yourself for a going out. You don’t practically remember about your problems, because you really like what you see in the mirror. Now you are in a club, waiting subconsciously for some response on the part of the men (because you are really stunning!), for compliments, for holding the door open… Instead, you receive nothing but indifference… They are afraid! Do we need that? Do we want to die out? No, I believe!
Finishing up, I would like to repeat that I AM FOR holding a door open, offering a seat, paying the bill, helping with a coat, offering a helpful hand and all that courtesy! Because I find it natural, for me it’s a special language men and women use to communicate with each other not to die out! After all, we shouldn’t forget that “Woman’s strength is in her female weakness”
And do you know what struck me most? The fact is – I came across such books as “The Language Police” by Diane Ravitch and “A Feminist Dictionary” (600 pages!!!) by Cheris Kramarae, Paula A.Treichler and Ann Russo. Well, I am not the person to judge, but the authors’ ideas sound somewhat absurd from time to time. In their attempt to make the language as inoffensive as possible, they create such words and definitions that are mocked at worldwide. For example, not to insult a she-citizen of the USA hinting on her sexual belonging, she is to be called “a vaginal American”! Would you like to be the one? If we compose a he-counterpart… What would it be? “A penis American”? I have never thought that it is shameful to be a Woman or a Man! Not a very beautiful woman (or should I say “person”?) is described as “having an alternative body image”; a prostitute is called “a sex-worker”. And, at last, this week’s topic – “courtliness” or “chivalry” is interpreted as “an instrument of suppression, making a woman incapable of solving life problems without a man’s everyday help”. It’s really beyond my comprehension!
In other words, I see the problem differently. And I don’t reject the idea of having equal rights between men and women, but everything should be reasonable! I don’t have an aversion for a business-lady/woman, she gained success and that’s great! I would admire her strong character and purposefulness. But what really makes me furious is much anger, seeing enemies everywhere without focusing on the real world issues that most men and women are facing (I am talking about feminism) or banning such scripts as: “Mother brings some sandwiches to Father who is repairing a roof”, should be: “Mother is repairing a roof”; “Boys are playing and girls are shouting for them”, should be: “mixed teams of players” (from “The Language Police”), etc. Isn’t that insensible?
Men are always men. They will always like real women – sensible, tender, caring, all in lace and curls. They are (well, most of them) defenders by Nature and they need a woman to protect her, to take care of her, to admire and love her, not to struggle with. Isn’t that only natural?
And vice versa, women will always be women.)) They will always like real men – strong, courageous, noble, caring, all in shining armour, ready to rescue damsels in distress. And real women will always be wise enough to let them do that! Have we forgotten a well-known saying: “A man is a head, but a woman is a neck”? A woman inspires a man for noble deeds, directs his energy to the right channel. A man, in his turn, tenders thanks to a woman doing all sorts of things we call “chivalry”.
Just imagine a situation: men pay no attention to women out of fear of being blamed for “conceptual rape” (meaning “an imagined participation of a man in a coitus without a woman’s preliminary agreement”; I wonder, how did she manage to read his thoughts?... An enchantress of a woman, really!), for example. But let’s go on imagining… You are at home, it’s boring, something has gone wrong with a boyfriend, then, suddenly and fortunately enough, a girlfriend of yours is calling: “Let’s get some fresh air somewhere?” After a few minutes of hesitation you decide: “Why not!” and start dressing up. Dressing up! Men usually put something on, ladies dress up! It’s an open secret, that dressing up is a kind of ceremonial for a lady – she is trying to show her best, her individuality in the clothes, it is even possible to talk about her mood judging by the way she looks like. So, you’ve spent about an hour (or more!) preparing yourself for a going out. You don’t practically remember about your problems, because you really like what you see in the mirror. Now you are in a club, waiting subconsciously for some response on the part of the men (because you are really stunning!), for compliments, for holding the door open… Instead, you receive nothing but indifference… They are afraid! Do we need that? Do we want to die out? No, I believe!
Finishing up, I would like to repeat that I AM FOR holding a door open, offering a seat, paying the bill, helping with a coat, offering a helpful hand and all that courtesy! Because I find it natural, for me it’s a special language men and women use to communicate with each other not to die out! After all, we shouldn’t forget that “Woman’s strength is in her female weakness”
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